Alright..2 days ago, was the day where my mom's soul return home, here to pay a visit to us..Refer to Memoirs On My Mom's Funeral..

Some ritual was held in the living room and none of us is allowed to walk out of the room, in order not to disturb my mom..

So my dad and I slept in my sisters room and we played gin rummy..Hahaha..

Well..According to the medium, playing gin rummy or mahjong, will not diturb the deads walking around the house and enjoy their meal, as long as we don't step into the living room..

*The offerings for the ritual*

*Before the ritual started*

*There, the ritual is about to start*

*Lot of food and drinks*

*Lights off*

*The offerings to the dead*

*Namo Amitabha.??*

Ok..What's with the food and cans of beer.?? Like my mom can finish it..

It's actually for my mom and the so-called prison-guards of the underworld, the Ngau Tao Ma Min, which are the notorious Cow Head and Horse Face *WTF~*

Both of these guards are assigned to bring the dead-freshies back to their home for a visit to the family of the dead..

Thus, the offerings are for the deads and both guards for their hardwork bla bla bla..

Like I said in previous entries..Today, 11th of May 2006 is my mom's 52nd birthday..

So we went to the Fatt Wah Temple at Salak South to 'celebrate' her birthday..

*The Fatt Wah Temple*

My house doesn't has a altar for the ancestors of my family..So my mom is placed in this temple, as if how you place those plates on the altar in your home..

*The cake for my mom*

*52nd birthday*

*What a cake*

*The place of my mom's before going up to the racks*

*Candles lighted*

 

*HAPPY BIRTHDAY MOM~~*

Happy birthday to you,
Happy birthday to you,
Happy birthday to my mom~~
Happy birthday to you..
 

DISCLAIMER : This entry might contain some images that will freak the shit out of you..So just be prepared for the images or you can just leave once and for all..

Ok..I can start my story now..Hahaha..

Alright..It's nothing hardcore in this entry actually..

Just some pics of the funeral of my mom recently, 28th-30th of April 2006, at the parking lot of my house (refer to Rest In Peace, My Beloved Mom)..

Well, some of you might think I'm freaking crazy, snapping pics of the funeral and stuffs..

But hey, that's my mom..This is the one and only funeral for my mom..I don't think it's bad to take some pics of it for the family album collection..

And of course, for those who didn't came or not being able to come to the funeral and felt sorry for not being here with me, these are the pics for you..

Some did sent their sincere regards to me through those who came..So I think you can look over the pics, out of your curiosity what was happening during the funeral..

*This is when the paper figurines (I don't know what's that called) for the dead arrived*

*The whole 'tent' site of it*

*Ok..This is my dad*

*The altar of my mom*

*You want to see the coffin.??*

*My mom's pic of don't know how many years ago, at least 20 years*

*It's still broad daylight*

*Can you see the coffin.??*

*The paper figurines on the side - car, house, DVD player, VCD player, TV, etc etc*

*The altar for the nuns to perform the prayers ritual*

*I guess the middle 1 is the Buddha, the left 1 is the Empress of the Heaven, and the right 1 is the Guan Yin*

*The stuffs to collect money*

*It's still early in the afternoon..So not much people drop-by*

*The friends of my mom's*

*The 1 who handled all of the things*

Well, I don't know..Try to look for others instead of this 1 here..I doubted their effort in the job..

All of the pics are people-empty and in daylight..The place was fulled with people at night, but I'm too busy to take pics at night, with prayers ritual took place..

*The tents are being dis-assembled*

*Fast work*

Honestly, I do think the fees are over-charged and some stuffs were not done correctly, precisely, and perfectly..

They did some follow-up though, as in providing my family some good information about the underworld, ceremony, and all the follow-ups after the funeral..

Yeah, still lots of things to do even after the funeral..

There's a rule called 7 X 7 = 49 Days or something like that..Meaning there are some procedures, rules and regulations my family need to follow for 49 days, starting from the day my mom died..

The 7 X 7 is actually equals to 7 days a week for 7 weeks..Therefore, 7 X 7 = 49 days..

The first week, which was last Wednesday, 3rd of May 2006, we had to find some nuns to perform a prayers ritual on her, in a meaning to free her from sufferings..

Then yesterday, 9th of May 2006, is the day where her spirit / soul is coming back to our home to pay a visit on us before spending her entire life in the underworld, and waiting for reincarnation..

So the people from the casket funeral service were here to help us..That's what I call a good follow-up, albeit over-charged fees and things done in a dishonest way..

After this, we have to find nuns again to perform prayers ritual on her on the 3rd week, 5th week, and lastly the 7th week..

Once again I would like to express my appreciation to my friends who attended the funeral and especially to Tai Chee Lim for following us to the Cheras Crematorium..

*The graveyard at the Cheras Crematorium, Cheras Baru*

*Kong Yi Tap*

This is the place where my mom stays now (ok, I took this pic in the building)..

Thanks for all the condolences, supports and concerns again..

And also not to forget Hospis Malaysia for the morale and facility support..

*The electric foldable bed with ripple mattress*

*The oxygen generator to produce oxygen*

*The LPM - LP meter for the oxygen generator*

*The oxygen tank*

We borrowed the oxygen tank just in case if there is any power failure..

*Sheep skin*

This thing here is to reduce the soreness on my mom's butt because she can't walk, so she sit on the bed all the time

*Hospis Malaysia at Taman Sri Bahtera, Cheras*

*Specialised in pallative care*

*Referring hospitals*

You can only get the service and care from Hospis Malaysia based on recommendation from the doctors of the referring hospitals..

*A nice place indeed*

Ok..Life still goes on..Time wait for no one..

*There's rainbow after a heavy rain*

Cheers everyone..See ya guys around..

Gazillion thanks to everyone who involved in helping me out and supporting me..

And oh, tomorrow, 11th of May 2006 is my mom's 52nd birthday..Happy Birthday MOM~~

It's a continuation from where I left off in the previous entry, "The Cochranean Gathering-s"..

The 2nd round of our outing at a kingdom in SS2, PJ, after the reunion at Kaki Corner..

Ok..It's nothing much related to any kingdom in the world or even our very own Sky Kingdom..

It's another Hongkie-style restaurant at SS2, PJ, Wong Kok Char Chan Teng (Wong Kok as in Kingdom in Cantonese, and Wong Kok is also the name of a place in HK)..

Ok..This Wong Kok is not 'Kingdom' that Wong Kok..Something like 'Dear' is not the same thing as 'Deer', but has the same pronounciation..

This Wong Kok is something like Famous Corner or something, as in Wong = Famous / Popular (and also king) and Kok = Corner / Horn..

I purposedly put it as 'Kingdom' coz it sounds more uumph than 'Famous Corner'..Haha..

*Ok..I know it's unclear..What do you expect from my mobile's quality*

*The red lights reads Wong Kok Char Chan Teng..The green one looks like shit huh..Hahaha*

There is another Wong Kok Char Chan Teng at Leisure Mall, Cheras..Just a small one..

The ambience is like any other Hongkie restaurant in town, such as Kim Gary, Causeway Bay, Tsim Tsa Chui, etc etc..

*Pic contributed by Hikaru*

*Pic contributed by Hikaru*

*My own pic*

*See that uncle.? We shoo-ed him away from the place we were sitting, because he was using too much space*

*The kitchen behind it*

*Patrons like us still hanging around at 12 midnight*

Now you can see the difference between pics contributed by Hikaru (SE W800 - 2-megapixels) and mine (Nokia 7610 - 1-megapixels)..

One thing I have to say, I did really felt I'm in Hong Kong..The ambience of it, the meals, and of course the people..

Honestly, I think this Wong Kok Char Chan Teng has its typical Ah-Beng and Ah-Lian staff, as if they were all hired from HK..

They have this kind of weird hairdo, like any Ah-Beng and Ah-Lian you saw at Petaling Street..

*Ok..This one is not-so-Ah-Beng..Oh, his name on the tag is Waiter 23*

For a regular supper..We ordered the followings..

*This is my Hongkie-style Maggi Goreng (Nissin Fried Mee with Spicy Diced Pork or something) with cold Chocolate..This one was quite ok..Very similar to mamak-style Maggi Goreng*

*Doraemon Mashed Potato with Ham Bread Ball..We didn't order this but the name is kinda hilarious*

*This is Hkaru's Can't-remember-what's-the-name-of-the-bread Bread*

*This is Julian's don't know what almond..It sucks*

*This is Lee Ping's the Ice Milk Tea*

Ok..I didn't mean the drink was made out of her milk..Get it.??

The drink is Lee Ping's creation, Ping Zhan Lai Cha (Ice Shake Milk Tea), as Ping (her name) = ice, Zhan = shake, Lai = milk, Cha = tea..

So you get what I mean..She created this drink out of no where when she was shaking her body shuffling alone at home..

Thus, this drink was born out of sudden, without a dad..WTF~ Hahaha..

Not all dishes were captured with our cams..Just some of it..

So we talked, chatted, laughed, making noises as if we were the Ah-Bengs and Ah Lians instead of the staff..

Cam-whore is all that matters..Wahahaha..

*Everyone was non-chalant with my cam*

*I guess Justin is the only 1 who showed some enthusiasm whenever I snap candid pics*

*Hikaru (right) laughing hysterically with Weng Soon*

*Bee Yan..No more hidings..I'll hunt you down..Muahahaha*

*Why is Lum smiling SO sheepishly.?? Hmmm~~*

*Oops..A candid of mine..Why is Weng Soon smiling like that and looking at me.??*

I think we really had fun that night..Laughing around like nobody cares..

Cam-whoring around, playing some fool on the waiters, etc etc..Even the staff staring at us with their weirdo Ah-Beng / Ah-Lian look..

*Why is Weng Soon howling.??*

*Here's Lee Ping..Cam-whoring alone huh*

*Weng Soon..Don't kiss me..I WANT MY MAMA.!!*

*Being forced to get out of the shop by the staff by cleaning the floor*

*Weng Soon looked exhausted with all his jokes and tricks all night long..Hahaha*

Here are some videos we captured that night..Enjoy guys..

 

 

 

So..It's 5th of May 2006, and it's Friday..The fifth day of the week (if you start counting the week with Monday)..

Isn't it a great day to leave a mark in your history or something.??

Anyway..After long hassle and busy with finals and funeral and stuffs..I'm finally free now..

Finished my last paper today..Don't want to care bout the result now..Enjoy to the fullest for few days..

Ok..Let's talk bout the title of this topic, "The Cochraneans Gathering"..

All the uni and colleges are having semester break now..And it's time for gatherings and outings..

First of all, gathering with the ex-Form 6 students of Cochrane, of my batch, year 2002-2003..

We had the gathering at Taman Billion's Kaki Corner..A famous steak house among KL-Cheras people..

Out of our knowledge, other ex-Cochraneans too, had some kinda gathering at the same venue..

So there we wham-med into each other, my batch of Form 6 year 2002-2003, Form 5 year 2001, and Form 5 year 2003..

Well, not bad that I knew some people in all 3 gatherings..Hahaha..

Actually, the gathering was nothing special..But to meet all, or maybe just some, of the ex-classmates and neighbouring classmates were indeed a nice feeling..

The chemistry bond that we made in just 1-and-a-half-year was so special..The time was not long but all of us are so good friends..

Meeting them in a nice ambience steak house instead of roadside mamak stalls is another thing to take into account..

A picture says a thousand words..

*The Form 6 gathering*

You can see there's Alan Kok Wai Min talking to Tan Lay Koon..

And behind the table is Vincent Lim Song Feng and Phoon Chee Hoe on the far back..

*The back view of it*

Chee Tony on the 2nd left (Yeah..Still as thin and small-sized as ever..Hahaha)..

*Chew Shu and Sin Yin cam-whoring*

*Chuan Soon laughing hysterically with Mun Choon*

*Everything so blurry, everyone so fake*

*Here's Yatz with Sin Yin*

Ok..All of the pics above were snapped by using my low-end Nokia 7610..More high-end quality pics in Diane's digicam..Wait for it..

Sad to say, the gathering was a disappointment..Not much turned up for it..

Mostly from Upper 6 Science 1, and a few from Science 2 and only about 4 of them from Science 3..

I guessed those that didn't turned up is because they feel they are not close to the others..

Some can't make it and I know it..They have things to do..But some giving lame excuses..

Hey, it doesn't matter if you are close or not with the other..All that matter is we get to meet up again after finishing our Form 6, 3 year ago..

The friendship attached and network is all that matters..And that's what Friendster being made of..

Not exactly for you to look for cun chicks or handsome guys (though that are some of the reasons for some people to sign up a Friendster account..WTF~)

Ok..I think that's all about the gathering last night..After the gathering at about 11pm, we went to SS2, PJ's Wong Kok Char Chan Teng (Wong Kok Restaurant)..

Will blog about it some times tomorrow maybe..I have heaps of things to blog after my miserable finals..Hahaha..

Catch ya guys later..Cheers..

Alright..It's all done with the funeral and my mom's new 'home'..

She's now peacefully 'staying' at Kong Yi Tap, Sungei Besi, together her mom (my grandma) and elder sister (my aunt)..

My mom was cremated on Sunday morning, at Cheras Crematorium, Cheras Baru..

We went to collect her bones and ashes yesterday and then brought them to Kong Yi Tap (I don't know what is it called in English)..

With all the hassles and fuss during the 3 days 2 nights funeral, we are all back to normal now..

Once again, I would like to thank all my friends for coming to the funeral on Friday night and Saturday night..

I would like to list down the names of those attended..

On Friday night - Ah Kuai, Pundei, Yeoh, Tew, Jason 9, Brian, Fuzz, Alan Kok, Ji-ann, Yee Tat, Michelle Ng, Chee Hoe, Weng Soon, Diane, Bee Yan, Yew Ming, Sin Yin & boyfriend, Kelvin, Boss, Ivan, Petrol, and Lohman..

Saturday afternoon - Poh Hong, Pay Shuen, Tai Chee Lim..

Saturday night - Kim Yow, Wong, Hiew, Hikaru, Deral, Nick, David Goh, Weng Kong, Flex, and Chuan Soon & Cindy..

Although these are the only names that came for the funeral, quite a number of them send their regards through some of these people..Thanks a lot..

Even some of them that I have had not contacted them for like nearly 2 years, too sent their regards..I really appreciate it..

Though my mom is no longer here, she'll remained in our heart..

I think that's all for now..Will try to continue update again after my finals..

Til then, see ya..

Ya, before I go off..I heard that Cochrane Form 6 Sc1 02-03 will be having a gathering at Taman Billion's Kaki Corner on this coming Friday, 5th of May 2006, at 8pm..Other Form 6-xers of other classes are also welcomed..

Not quite sure about it..Try to ask around, will ya.?? Bye..

To all my friends..

My mom was certified dead on 27th of April 2006, at 4.05pm, in PPUM..

We are having the funeral ceremony at my house, Taman Kobena, Cheras, from 28th - 29th of April 2006..

In case you want to come over to pay a visit..Come over starting from Friday afternoon or evening until Saturday midnight..

The coffin will be going out to the cemetary for cremation on Sunday morning..

Anything..Ask around and call me on my mobile phone..

Thanks for all the supports and concerns all these while..

And of course thanks for the condolences..

Everyone take good care of yourself..I'm fine, no worries..

Til then..See ya guys around..

If some other readers wondering..Refer to Have A Good Rest, Mom and The Reason Of It..

I'm some sort of carefree now..So I'm going to tell you guys the reasons, why I blogged about "Have A Good Rest, Mom"..

Before I start, my mom was admitted in PPUM again early this morning..It was my dad's suggestion to get the professional's care..

My mom too, agreed to go back to the hospital after back home for about 4 days..

My sis and I can't sleep well these few nights because we were staying up at night to take care of her..

While in the day, my aunt helped us to take care of her..

Our finals are here, yet we haven't got any chance to look at our notes..Anyhow, life is so fragile..We just hope to be by her side whatever happens..

So, the very first reason is, more than half of my friends that I mingle with now, knew my mom..

But, not more than a quarter of them knew about my mom's condition, because I didn't revealed anything of it, at all..

Most of my friends said, "I didn't know you went through all these all these while", "It must be tough for you", "Why I didn't heard anything of it after knowing you for so long", etc etc..

Hence, it's better for me to tell you guys before the sad day comes..Even when I told you guys about the condition now, all of you were shocked out of your ass..

What if what I'm telling you guys in the previous entry that my mom is no longer here.?? Sure you'll be more shocked than what I'm supposed to tell you, am I right.?

So at least if anyone of you guys feels want to pay a vsit to my mom, you still can do that before whatever happens..

Secondly, because of the so-called pressures that tensed up in my family and myself, I need to blurt it all out and get some support from you guys..

It is not that I want to make a big fuss of it because my mom looked quite fine earlier on..It's my family problem after all..Just recently, her health was in a downturn situation..

This is one of my major reasons when I first started this blog back then, blurt out anything to lighten the burden in myself..

I'm so glad and grateful that all of my relatives, friends and even outsiders, being so concerned and supportive..

Famous bloggers like Wingz from rojaks.blogspot.com and Peter Tan, too showed their concerns towards my family and my mom's condition..Thanks a lot..

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Here's a little update about my mom's condition..

I really like to thank all the prayers, supports, and concerns that were being showered upon my mom..

My mom was under inspection of Professor Yip, a female doctor, being in the highest level in the department that took care of my mom in PPUM (onkologist or something)..She was also a lecturer/professor for trainee doctors..

She claimed that my mom has only about 1 month plus life, when she was admitted into the hospital last time..

Well, actually it does mean, my mom's life is in jeorpady..It will go to the other world anytime..

But hope another miracle happens, just like the one happened before..Coz that time, my mom's life was in jeorpady, too..

For more than 1 week, my mom can't sleep at night..Trying to get to sleep, but still woke up in the middle of the night..

The way she sleeps.? She has to bend down to the front as if you are lying down on a table to sleep while you are studying..

She can't lie down on her back to sleep on a good posture..She said it is not comfortable at all..

When she's back home here, she talked lots of nonsense..I guessed she is facing mental disorder because of insomnia..

She kept waking up in the middle of the night and called out my name, talking nonsense to me..

Such as, "How much is the depreciation if we sell the car now.?", "Where is your uncle.?" (Which my uncle wasn't at at my place that time), "Why you are all here today.?? Don't you all have to go to school.??" (Which that day was actually Saturday, yet she insisted it's Monday or any other weekdays), etc etc etc..

Yesterday, she talked something serious..She said she can no longer hang on like this..She's going to has the last breath..

She called us, my dad, both my sis, and me gathered around her so she could see us for the last time..

Telling her last will to my dad, saying my dad has to continue the journey on himself and sorry for leaving him and us so early..

All of us shed a river of tears, trying to give her confidence that it's still early for her to leave us, etc..

After like about 45 minutes of the tragic drama, she suddenly blurted out, "Kam yat sei mm hui..Teng yat joi sei koh", as in "I'm still alive today..Try to die again tomorrow"..

At that moment, we felt it was a joke of the century that a sick person would ever say..Still, we sighed in relief that she's alright after the commotion..

It's very heartaching to see her like that..

Anyway..Now she's under care in the hospital..It's bad to say but it is true that we can have some nice sleep and have a look on my notes for my finals..

WE ALL LOVE YOU, MOM~~

By the way..My mom is just 51 year-old..Going to turn 52 on 11th of May..Hope she'll be fine til then..